![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
(no subject)
26 Feb 2008 09:15 pmSo although I've only had two actual boyfriends, I think I've begun to formulate a general rule of thumb for dating someone:
Never date anyone you wouldn't want on a two-person road trip.
Basically, a relationship is sort of like a road trip; it's the two of you together and no one else. You could ask for opinions on where to go or what to see, but the decision and the act of actually going somewhere is something that only the two can decide, and hopefully mutually.
If someone bores you to death in a car, they'll probably bore you to death in a relationship. If they insult you for a long time and then try to make it up to you when they want their way, it's going to be difficult for you to want to do something mutually beneficial. If you can't talk things out and have real conversations, it's stifling to both of you and you both probably need to get out.
Never date anyone you wouldn't want on a two-person road trip.
Basically, a relationship is sort of like a road trip; it's the two of you together and no one else. You could ask for opinions on where to go or what to see, but the decision and the act of actually going somewhere is something that only the two can decide, and hopefully mutually.
If someone bores you to death in a car, they'll probably bore you to death in a relationship. If they insult you for a long time and then try to make it up to you when they want their way, it's going to be difficult for you to want to do something mutually beneficial. If you can't talk things out and have real conversations, it's stifling to both of you and you both probably need to get out.
